
Hey Nikki’s world….
Do you have the friend or family member that stays to them self and appears to be rude and arrogant if he or she doesn’t follow the ways of the majority? The person you find yourself asking if everything’s okay because they just seem so serious about everything? Who needs to spend time alone for hours at a time after being around a large crowd? Who may grunt or take a deep breath at someone only trying to be nice to them? Who loves to have quiet meaningful conversations about inner feelings or ideas? More than likely you have an Introvert in your life-and that your not caring for them the best way you can. Introverts are complex folks that have different needs and requirements than the majority, the extrovert. I know. I’m an introvert. Until recently I’ve tried to fool myself and say that couldn’t be me. I’m outgoing, not shy, love to speak in front of large crowds, enjoy long conversations, but I have all the common symptoms of an introvert and have learned to embrace them. I’ve become liberated in my discovery and would like to tell you a few things you need to know in dealing with that friend or family member that seems so different than you. Someone you know and respect is an introvert and your probably driving them crazy without even recognizing it. You have to know the warning signs.
In short, an introvert is a person who is energized from being alone and drained by being around people. Sounds crazy, but it’s true. Introverts enjoy being in deep thought and exploring the inner workings of the mind ,getting in tune with their thoughts and feelings. When introverts want to be alone it’s only a sign of them wanting to recharge from being around people, or just wanting to get into their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like prevents them from the one on one time that is so needed on a daily basis.
Extroverts are just the opposite. They are energized by people and drained when left alone. Extroverts need social settings and heavy doses of people to feel alive. Leave an extrovert alone for less than five minutes and they reach for the nearest phone or quickest fix of social media. In direct contrast, after being around people for a period of time an introvert needs hours alone to power down and recharge. Phone talking is only done if absolutely needed and social networking is one of the last things on our mind. Introverts are misunderstood by extroverts, and extroverts are easily understood by introverts. Extroverts spend most of their time in conversations working out who they are by interacting with other people. They also expect that company especially their own is always welcomed. They could never understand why someone would want to be alone. I have tried to explain the matter time and time again, but I never got the sense that any of them could understand. They listen for a split second and go right back to yipping and yapping like I never said a word.
Since extroverts have an insatiable appetite for talk and attention, they dominate social life and set the bar for interaction. The majority of our society is populated by extroverts, so being outgoing and social is looked at as being the norm-happy, regular. Extroverts are usually more successful and earn more money than an introvert for obvious reasons. Being the minority introverts have been labeled guarded, anti-social, private, narrow, emotionally damaged. Just a little something you need to know. We don’t suffer from a disease or a sickness. Being an introvert is not a choice it’s an orientation. Get to know us.
Until next time….
Tim Dawg Patterson